Why do some have a mission to piss on those who nurture and love them?

Posted August 15, 2011 by cathymcdonald
Categories: Growing and becoming, Knowing self, Languaging Life, People or situations that bless and enrich me, Those who hurt the people who love and need them

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This post was first drafted on June 14, 2011. Seems I forgot to publish it. But it is waking up today because it is an essential part of the backstory to today’s story.

Today, on Aug 15, 2011 I opened my blog to record a life lesson that Dene Hager, a former student and new influence on my current burning question (in this sixtieth year of personal evolution):  What do I want to be when I grow up? (Dene has blessed me with one of my deepest felt-needs and I must must must language it here on Kitty’s Kitty Blog: Picturing Cats and Languaging Life  —  but I see that journal wants to wait a few days.

This old draft  is revealing not only in what it says about my state of being in June, but in what has happened since then. Namely, the revelations that are, to me, a JOURNEY OF A LIFETIME.

Our beloved orange cat Ralph has developed an inexplicable need to piss on the clothes, computer, cables, and desk of his beloved human, Kevin. But it is passive aggressive because when Ralph is around Kevin, he snuggles up as usual. Yet Kevin’s office carpet was so destroyed that after every possible salvage attempt was made, we had to give in and tear out the carpet and pad.

Why would anyone choose to hurt the ones who feed and support and spend money and labor on their behalf? It is a grief that this adored being in our home is pushing us as far as this. Two vet visits later, kitty prozac aside, and with broken hearts, I feel disconsolate.

But the bigger grief in my life right now is an analogous tragedy happening to humans whose lives will be forever damaged by incidents and decisions of that which can only be called injustice. Perpetrated by those who should have supported them.

What do you do when you have no control over a pissing contest that you can’t win?


Weight Loss

Posted April 7, 2011 by cathymcdonald
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Thanks to my gracious neighbor, I was able to weigh Tiger Lily. As a family member said upon first seeing her 2 years ago,  “Oh, I see you have a double wide.”

But I am happy to report that Tiger Lily now weighs a mere 14.5 lbs, down from 18.2

Weight is such an unkind instrument of measurement. Having always carried an extra 10 (if not 20) pounds and fantasizing about losing weight, I now find myself in the startling and curious position of being too thin. When someone who doesn’t quite measure 5′ tall loses 30 lbs in one year, the result is not flattering. Why is it that I used to feel guilty about being a size 10 or 12, but I now feel guilty about size 0 being large on me? Ah, vanity, thy name is (cultural conceptions of beauty for a) woman!

Learning to get along

Posted April 6, 2011 by cathymcdonald
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Here we have Tiger Lily, the top cat (literally and figuratively) and Ralph, the subordinate. They are obviously learning to get along. How does one learn to subordinate when appropriate and how to assert one’s agency, when appropriate? I’m still working on that one. What do you think?

Cat hair on the back of the couch

Posted April 3, 2011 by cathymcdonald
Categories: Love from cats are worth the cost

Why is it that no matter how often you vacuum it up, no matter how committed to cleanliness you are, cat hair never goes away?

Reminds me of the proverb from the Christian bible that says “Where no oxen are, the crib is clean; but much increase is by the strength of an ox” (Proverbs 14:4). To translate for me it reads: “Where no cats live, cat hair is never a problem; on the other hand, the increase of love in my house with cats is worth the price of vacuuming cat hair.”


Posted March 18, 2011 by cathymcdonald
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This is what I think about migraine headaches. Trust me, I’m right about this.

Speaking of using animals to “language life”…

Posted March 16, 2011 by cathymcdonald
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I call my  Kitty’s Kitty blog “Picturing Cats and Languaging Life” because it is a place where I not only post pictures of my animals, but use them to stimulate thoughts about larger issues. As a reader, I just discovered Jon Katz, who has a string of books an arm long, most revolving around dogs, but all of them commenting upon being alive. And the pain that such an experience can sometimes entail.

At the moment I’m enjoying stories about Bedlam Farm


I encourage everyone to read Katz’s work!

Planted in the planter

Posted March 9, 2011 by cathymcdonald
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Oh to be able to just sit and soak up the sun. To not care where one is or to worry about getting dirt in one’s fur. We could learn a lot from Tiger Lily, I’m thinking.